Monday, May 31, 2010
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Friday, May 28, 2010
After I finish the chef salad I made myself for lunch and do a little work on the sermon, I'm going to go pick her up. I will have company for my nursing home rounds today. It will be nice. I like this woman, and I haven't had an opportunity to sit and talk to her for a while. Now I will.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
The temperature has been close to 90 the last 2 days. I don't do well with heat. Today I broke down and turned on the air conditioning. The walls on our brick home are so thick that it is slower heating up and cooling down. It's been hot sleeping the last couple of nights. Hopefully tonight will be better.
Daughter turned things around nicely today, and was very cooperative and helpful. She decided to clean out her closet, and called me up to see the clothes she wanted to donate. Of course, they were all things she'd worn within the last month. I suggested a better idea would be to put them in the guest room closet until fall. She was quite agreeable.
The other day I looked at some vacation pictures from last year. We like to camp in the northern woods. I felt a deep longing, almost an ache, to go back there. Camping allows me to step back and see things in new ways. As long as Daughter is wetting the bed every night, however, I'm not going to take her tent camping. She wet the bed one night last year. We spent the entire morning in a hot laundromat. I'm not going to do that every day. I'm hoping she'll stop soon and I can make reservations at the state park. I need to get out in the woods. I need to get out in the woods where the temperature isn't 90.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
- Keep her bedroom and closet clean (can't take shortcuts or hide undone work)
- Take care of the clean laundry (again, no shortcuts or hiding)
- Handle verbal instructions (she prefers things written down, and if I verbally tell her more than 1 task she protests that I'm piling on her and she can't handle it).
- Pick up the pace of her work when asked (she slows down when told to speed up)
- Work through pain (she regularly complains of physical ailments to get out of work. I don't think the ailments are real, they are just an excuse.)
- Stay dry (Sunday she wet herself through the day.)
I told her that she needs to do all of those things for 30 days straight. I made a chart with boxes for each day and each task. When she fills 30 boxes, I'll take her out for ice cream. I put in rewards every 30 boxes, and at 180 boxes I'll help her get a job.
Several interesting things came out of all of this.
- She was amazed that I'd actually help her get a real job. I was surprised to realize that she thinks I'm holding her back.
- She was quite confident that she'd be able to do these things, and didn't question the need for a single one.
- She knows how to stop wetting the bed. My sisters have urged me to take her to the doctor to check for physical issues. I keep telling them there is no medical reason for this. Daughter confirmed that. "I just need to listen to Kitten. She knows when I'm going to wet the bed and tries to make me wake up. She knows because I get restless."
In the past she'd mentioned that Kitten doesn't like it when she wets the bed, but this was the first I heard that Kitten tries to get her up. She was dry this morning. Do I think she'll be able to do all those things for 30 days? Not really. But that's okay. If she does, I am figuring out what we can do about employment. I put it in a poster frame for several reasons:
- It will be harder for her to destroy when she gets frustrated with it.
- We can use a dry erase marker to track her progress. It will be easy to erase and start over when she blows it.
- It is a concrete visual reminder. The goal of community employment is at the top. The tasks and rewards are listed. She decorated it, so she was involved.
Will it work? It gives me something to point to when she wants to move out or adopt a kid. I can remind her that first she needs to be able to hold down a job, and to hold down a job, she needs to be able to do those things. If it keeps her motivated for several days at a time, it will be worth it. Last night she folded the whites properly without complaining, a first. This morning she was dry. If that happens several times a week, it will be worth the time and money.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
"Every night you don't wet the bed, I'll give you .50 to buy something to drink in the morning."
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Monday, May 17, 2010
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Friday, May 14, 2010
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Monday, May 10, 2010
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Saturday, May 8, 2010
M-Motivated (okay, she spelled it modidvaded)
O-Often forgiveable (I'm trying to figure out if that's good or bad)
T-they always know everything (this was underlined twice)
H-happy when not grumpy (is she talking about me being grumpy or her being grumpy)
E-energy is crazy in them