Monday, February 28, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Friday, February 25, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Monday, February 21, 2011
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Friday, February 18, 2011
- The almost empty container from the cheeseball.
- The cardboard that had held a 6 pack of applesauce together.
- Several spoons.
- Numerous food wrappers.
- Chocolate cereal.
- DVD's floating around loose in bags (a never ending battle).
Daughter has some work to do this evening. Sigh.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Sunday, February 13, 2011
- She wants to get a job and insurance
- She wants to adopt a child
- She wants to be a single mother
- She wants to live with me forever
- She's unhappy because we didn't put her right into a job
I listened, and then I reminded her why we placed her in this program. I told her we wanted her to be successful, and so we placed her where she would feel safe. I reminded her that the workshop setting would have been loud and chaotic, and we were concerned she would have been overwhelmed. I told her that she was telling me she wasn't ready for any additional challenges as long as she was wetting the bed every night. I told her that once she proved to me she was no longer overwhelmed, we'd talk about employment/workshop options for her.
She agreed with my analysis of the issues and my explanation of the bed wetting. I told her to talk to me about these issues after she'd stopped wetting the bed. I think the fact that she wants to stay with me forever is another indication of how scared and overwhelmed she continues to be. On a positive note, she's talking to me, and she's been in a much better mood the last couple of days. Oh, and the trigger for all of this? She's had a couple of conversations with Mommy Best Friend from Tiny Village the last few days. She's jealous, but she knows she's not ready for sex, childbirth, or independent living. That's why she wants to adopt and stay with me.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Friday, February 11, 2011
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
- I'm going to take my shower before bed, so I have more time in the morning.
- I made and froze 6 pb&j sandwiches. Those are for lunch on those days when she doesn't get up-- I don't have time to do anything else when I have to spend so much time convincing her to get up.
- After turning on the light and pulling off her covers, if she doesn't get up I am going to stand in her doorway and sing to her. I'll sing happy, chipper, upbeat, obnoxious songs until she gets up. I'll have fun doing it.
I recognize if this does work, it won't work for long, and in another week or so I'm going to need to come up with a new approach. I'll deal with that problem when it comes. For now, I no longer feel like she's holding me hostage in the mornings. Tune in tomorrow to hear the outcome.
When I got back to the church, I went to a great committee meeting. Lots of excitement and enthusiasm about some plans we are making. Tonight I get to go to another small group gathering where I will become better acquainted with some members. I continue to love ministry among these people.
- As soon as I was up and moving, I put the citrus in her room.
- I then turned on the radio in the bathroom so she would know I was up and moving.
- I began making sausage biscuits, thinking the aroma would encourage her to get moving.
- Her alarm went off.
- I turned on her bedroom light.
- The citrus was so energizing she actually reached over and turned off her alarm.
- I pulled the covers off her.
- After 20 minutes, I called her name.
- Five minutes later, I went in and called her name until she answered (yelled at me that she heard me).
- I kept yelling at her every five minutes until she got up and into the shower.
She didn't get breakfast-- just a cup of milk with her insulin and pills. She had a rather angry and unpleasant Mom on the drive over to the church (we didn't leave until after the time I like to be here).
In our weekly conversation, Sister Best Friend suggested that I shift my focus. I'm not going to win the morning battle. How do I strengthen myself to survive it? I'm going to put some thought into that today.