Wednesday, February 9, 2011

An Afternoon Away

I took myself out to lunch today, and sat reading the Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. I started it and was appreciating it, then I got busy and stopped reading it just as I got to the tools for family. I began that section today. Of course, the most important thing is to take care of myself according to the book. Having disengaged, I did make some decisions about how I'm going to change my approach to mornings.
  • I'm going to take my shower before bed, so I have more time in the morning.
  • I made and froze 6 pb&j sandwiches. Those are for lunch on those days when she doesn't get up-- I don't have time to do anything else when I have to spend so much time convincing her to get up.
  • After turning on the light and pulling off her covers, if she doesn't get up I am going to stand in her doorway and sing to her. I'll sing happy, chipper, upbeat, obnoxious songs until she gets up. I'll have fun doing it.

I recognize if this does work, it won't work for long, and in another week or so I'm going to need to come up with a new approach. I'll deal with that problem when it comes. For now, I no longer feel like she's holding me hostage in the mornings. Tune in tomorrow to hear the outcome.

When I got back to the church, I went to a great committee meeting. Lots of excitement and enthusiasm about some plans we are making. Tonight I get to go to another small group gathering where I will become better acquainted with some members. I continue to love ministry among these people.


Anonymous said...

When my kids were younger and were reluctant to get up in the a.m. I'd turn on the overhead lights in their rooms, open a window if the weather was chilly and stand in the doorway and sing loudly. Two songs worked particularly well: "Good Morning Starshine" and "Alexander's Ragtime Band."
The perkier and more annoying the songs are, the better.

Heather said...

I, too, am a big fan of the perky morning song. When the kids complain, I remind them I won't stop singing until they are up and moving. Sometimes I just make up weird verses if I can't remember all the words. I also use the repetitive knocking pattern on the door, where I get to let my inner drummer shine.