This morning as we were driving to the church, Daughter asked me, "How did I do on helping getting ready for company this weekend in terms of percentages?"
She was obviously quite proud of herself and looking for praise. My response did not please her. I pointed out that having to inspect her work took my time and was frustrating, and that her goal seemed to be to get by with as little as possible, skipping things like cleaning the bathroom sink in the hopes I wouldn't notice. I told her I was about to the point of deciding it was easier to do it myself, and she may have one this one.
She was silent. No protests. No justifications. She didn't try to convince me that I was wrong and she did try to do things properly.
As she sat there silently beside me, I asked her what was wrong, and if she hadn't liked my answer. Her response was quick and to the point: "You should have lied."