Wednesday, April 20, 2011


My decision that it's time for a change is certainly being confirmed. She told me she had to clean her bedroom so she couldn't pick up her stuff in the family room. Then she took her computer into her bedroom and watched TV on it. She's not allowed to have her computer in her bedroom. When I discovered what she'd done, I told her she'd best get up this morning. She responded with a surly, "Is that threat?"

All of her responses were sarcastic and surly last night. I got up this morning, still tired. I managed to lock my keys in my bedroom. That meant no money, driver's license, or access to any food in the house. Thanks to the board members who fixed the lock on the guest room when Daughter broke the lock trying to pick it, I knew how to break into my bedroom. I shouldn't have to break into my own bedroom. A key to my bedroom will go in the combination lock box I have on a post in the back yard today.

When Daughter finally got up (late) of course, her only words to me were a yelled, "I'm sorry for making you late." I quietly responded, "Please don't yell at me."

She is down in her program. I have 6 hours before I have to deal with her again. Well, probably not 6. At some point she'll call or text to make sure I'm still going to be here for her. She may even text me an apology. She's an expert at saying she's sorry. She doesn't seem to understand that she needs to back up her words with actions.


Miz Kizzle said...

No, you shouldn't have to break into your own bedroom.
Can you get a respite placement for your DD?

maeve said...

I'm "listening" and feeling the pain that you are feeling. BTDT.

She is so RAD/Borderline! I have two of those and know how it feels.

Yikes! and so sorry.

Reverend Mom said...

Miz Kizzle,

She's going to respite May 10. It will just be overnight, but it will give me a break. If it goes well, I'll schedule more dates.


I know you've been where I am-- and none of us want to end up here. I'm searching for a new hope.

Heather said...

I read your blog regularly, and I see my 14-yr-old daughter in so much of what you go through with Daughter. The lying and sneaking, the blowing up about anything, the apologies and promises that mean nothing.

The future scares me. I trust in the Lord's plan, or try to very hard, but I don't know what hope there is as long as she continues to decide to follow this negative path!

I think you've made the right decision to pursue an out-of-home placement. I hope they are able to find somethign for her sooner rather than later, and that they don't drag their feet just because you are there as a backup plan.

Reverend Mom said...


I'm sorry you're taking a similar journey. I'm sure I'll have to get rather nasty and push before they actually find a placement for her. I have several people within the agency who see the need, and they'll coach me on what to do....