Daughter was fishing today, throwing out bait, lures, and anything else she could think of in an attempt to hook me. She entertained me with all sorts of inappropriate comments from staff. I listened, and then said, "I wonder what they would say if I asked them."
"Okay, I twisted it."
Finally, at lunch I told her I knew that the uncertainty and change were really hard for her. We made a list of the things that aren't changing. We talked about things she could do when she feels overwhelmed. We talked about all the other changes she has successfully navigated.
I considered it a victory. Not only did she not hook me, I identified the real issue and helped her figure out how to cope.