We're having a family gathering for Daughter's birthday this Sunday. Yesterday evening Daughter suddenly became very negative. I'm not sure what set her off. She has informed me that she doesn't want anyone coming to the house Sunday. She doesn't want to live near family anymore. If they come, she'll leave. I told her they were coming, and if she didn't like it, she was free to hide in her bedroom.
I anticipate that she will change her mind about the party several more times before it actually gets here. This will be the first time she's had a family birthday party. We've combined it with our celebration of Easter several times when we managed to get together for Easter (which wasn't very often-- I work on Easter), and I'm pondering if the idea of a party for her is too overwhelming.
It's never easy to figure things out with Daughter, and never will be.