I just registered Daughter for adult special needs camp at the camp owned by the regional church. She will be going to camp in June. She will be gone from Monday to Friday. I'm going to see if I can find a seminar or something to go to while she's gone. She has mixed feelings about going. She's obviously very anxious about it. Administrative Assistant and her husband have been there many times, and have run camps there. They are doing a good job of telling Daughter how wonderful it is. They will have to keep selling her on it, and pull out all the stops the week before she goes.
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It will be good for both of us to have a week apart.
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Longtime Lurker here ...
You are an encouragement to me Ministry Mom -- our dd is 16.5 going on half that. We don't have the wetting or insulin issues, for which I am very thankful. But the downside is that she doesn't feel she "needs us" particularly (hah, attachment issue understatement) so much of our limit-setting and parameters appear contrived or manipulative. Really just interested in keeping her safe. Learning from experience is fine -- but as the learning appears limited, I really don't need the experience. Have to keep reminding reminding reminding myself that many of her behaviors comes from anxiety and fear. I can't imagine living with that much internal stress all. the. time. It must suck to be her at times, which gives me a bit (bit) more empathy ...until I realize she's not thinking that hard. Ah, the endless battle for a perspective that works. Thank you for your honest insights -- I really appreciate you !! Rachel
Rachel,
Thank you for posting, I'm glad that you find my ramblings helpful. I do think it sucks to be our daughters-- and any glimpses we get into their pain does make it a little easier, and a little harder as we recognize what they (and us) are up against.
I hope your daughter will begin to learn from her experiences....
Just want to take this opportunity to second "Longtime Lurker"'s post. Raised my first RAD kids over twenty years ago and felt very alone and distressed. Ministry Mom's posts have been particularly helpful to me as I raise my teen with attachment issues now. I join you in thanking her.
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