Daughter told me this morning how much she is dreading Christmas without Grandma and Grandpa. "It just won't be the same without them." I agreed it would be different, and then asked her what wouldn't change. She talked about being with family. I reminded her that both Grandma and Grandpa were better off now, as their health had gotten so bad in recent years. I reminded her of good memories. My parents would come once a year and stay with Daughter so I could go to some continuing ed event. They stayed with her for over a week in 2000 while I went to Israel. She smiled and remembered how they had spoiled her.
Dad loved to cook, and he loved to cook his children and grandchildren's favorite foods. So, every time we went to visit, he would make sausage gravy and biscuits for Daughter. She laughed and talked about how she'd want more and I'd tell her no and Grandpa would tell her yes. He didn't care that it was making it hard for me to figure out her insulin, or that she would run high all day as a result, she wanted more, and she should have more.
We are not going to be with family for New Year's Eve this year. That is one thing that will not be the same. We decided, though, that on New Year's morning I would make sausage gravy and biscuits for Daughter. We will do that to honor the memory of Grandpa. We will create new traditions that honor the memory of my parents. I may even allow her to have more when she asks. That's what Dad would want.