Friday, April 26, 2013

Current: Communication

I'm going to have to talk to Daughter's new house about communication.  She tells them things, and doesn't think they are listening.  They say okay, but when they don't immediately follow through, she thinks they aren't listening.  Today she was upset because she was running low on test strips, and the staff member said okay, but didn't give her another bottle.  I finally asked how many she had, and she had 5.  I pointed out that was enough to get her through the day, and she didn't need to worry about it. 

If the staff member had simply said, "You have enough to get you through the day, and I'll give you more when you need them," Daughter would have been fine.  Daughter is counting her pills now, and has had to point out she didn't have all her pills a couple of times.  This house is still far superior to the last one, but there are adjustments and frustrations. 


Miz Kizzle said...

Can your DD follow up on her requests when she's not satisfied with an answer by saying something like, "I'm afraid I'm going to run out of test strips today?"
It's a fine line between being assertive and nagging, but maybe if her caregivers understand why she's asking they might learn to communicate better and relieve some of her anxiety.

Reverend Mom said...

I'm working with her on that. Any communication from her is progress. Under stress, she tends to shut down, so for years we've been working with her to use her voice. At the time of her trauma, she couldn't speak, so it has been very hard to get her to speak up. I don't know how many times we've told her to use her voice. She's getting there.