I had difficulty sleeping last night. Daughter continues to show a great deal of remorse. I sent out a bunch of emails last night. Case Manager is all over it. She was not happy that program staff allowed her to spend over $100. As she pointed out, none of their clients have that kind of money to spend.
I will pick her up early Sunday morning from the new house and return her to the old house Sunday afternoon. Her current house has agreed to take her to get her fasting blood work done Monday or Tuesday. She will next be with me overnight on Wednesday. I really don't want her here over night right now. I don't like keeping everything locked up. I don't like thinking about her going through my drawers.
On the other hand, in Sunday School we're talking about the parable of the prodigal son-- more properly called the parable of the forgiving father. I forgive her, but trusting her and losing the feeling of having been violated is a bit harder....
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you have a right to your feelings. no sensee of enabling her to do this stuff. law breakers go to jail, even sped ones. she knows she can get away with it with you. if someone else did that to you, she would be enraged.
She has to turn everything she bought over to me. I may wrap it up and give it to her for her birthday in 11 days, or I may make her donate it. She also has to pay me back. She has $66 in her account at the house. She will be giving that to me on
Wednesday. She's also not going to get much time with me for a while. It's unfortunate that I have to have her here both Wednesday and Thursday evening this week, but that's the only way to get her to her doctor's appointment.
Her remorse helps with forgiving her but it isn't sufficient to rebuild trust. Has she said anything to show that she's trying to think of ways to avoid the temptation to do it in the future? Otherwise you don't really have a choice but to lock things up. It's really hard when dealing with adults that aren't completely capable of responsible adult behavior. We don't want to treat them like children but we can't trust them as we do functioning adults.
It is hard, and I don't trust her. I haven't figured out how I'm going to handle it. My preference would be to minimize her time here. However, with the various things coming up, that's not practical. I guess I'll keep things locked up, much as I hate it.
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