Daughter was in an oppositional mood yesterday. I had to lead nursing home worship at 3:00, and she kept changing her mind about whether she wanted to stay with me to go to it. After changing her mind for the 4th or 5th time, I decided I was going to keep her with me until after the service. As I turned toward home, she demanded I take her back to her house immediately. I told her it was too late, she was going to have to stay for the nursing home service.
When we got to the nursing home, she got mad because I told her she needed to move out of the doorway because she was blocking a resident with a walker. She got mad at stormed out, pouting on a bench outside. When the pianist arrived 10 minutes later, she was still out there pouting. Pianist encouraged her to come in, and eventually she did. I was relieved when Pianist arrived and reported seeing Daughter, because she'd been gone longer than I anticipated, and I was beginning to think I should go check on her.
When we left the nursing home and I turned toward her house, she insisted I not take her back right then. I said, "Look, I know you want to fight and argue today, but I'm not playing that game. I am taking you back now." Of course she then informed me I never listen to her and always cut her off. I didn't respond-- reinforcing her feelings, but I knew it was a no win situation for me.
was with me.
These are just a few of a number of similar incidents.
When I got home, I was tired. I realized that I don't have to deal with her drama all the time now, and I'm out of practice. It's not as easy to ignore it as it once was. I also recognized that living with her had been a huge source of stress. I'm very grateful I'm able to limit my time with her. She will be with me for 2 weeks of vacation this summer, and if she gets too oppositional, I'll take her back to her house and continue my vacation alone. I don't have to live with her drama any more.