Daughter called me this afternoon. She asked me not to be mad at her, and told me she had something to tell me. She tracked down her birth mother and called her. She also called her oldest birth brother, who abused and molested her. The last time she had contact with birth mother she ended up having 3 psychiatric hospitalizations. The phone call was so hard on her that I decided that for her protection she shouldn't have any further contact with her birth mother.
She assured me that it didn't bother her this time. I hope she's right. At least none of the birth family is in this area. That's comforting. I'm uncomfortable about the fact that I will be several states away at a conference for the next week. She knows that. She knows I won't be available for her. I think she's got a good support system here. I hope she doesn't need to test it.
It also shows me her growing independence. I am in control of less her of her life with each passing day. I think that is a good thing. It is also a very scary thing. Very scary.