So after bragging about how I had solved the problem of Daughter's distress by brutally explaining why she couldn't have contact with her birth family. She asked for permission to go watch a show she had recorded, and then come back and resume her work. She'd been cooperative and worked hard, so I allowed it.
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Dr. Jekyll went upstairs, but it was Mr. Hyde who came back down. After raging, threats, wanting to die, and lots of drama, I asked what the show she had watched had been about. She immediately said that had nothing to do with anything.
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"What was it about?"
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"Adoption."
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It's taken a while, but she just came down and told me how scared she is. I explained that her body felt fear whenever she thought about contacting her birth family, because her body remembers that they aren't safe. I reminded her again that her safety is my number one priority.
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She apologized, hugged me, and promised to make tomorrow a better day.
4 comments:
sigh, like a moth to flame. I am impressed that she finally told you she felt so scared and was able to turn the raging into words. very impressed
Most of the time she wants to do well and get better. Many days that's what keeps me going. Yesterday, for all the challenges, was a reminder of her stubborn determination.
I'm impressed as well. You are so good at helping her figure it out. Yes, she is stubbornly determined, but the challenges would make this impossible for some moms. Not you!!! Awesome
Thanks. I've had the support of some awesome moms.
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