Daughter is staying with me this weekend. She's actually been with me since Thursday evening. Yesterday, she made me breakfast in bed, then accompanied me on a number of errands. We had our children's ministry last night. One of the younger guys was unhappy with the group he was in, I was impressed with the way she knelt next to him and wiped the tears from his eyes. He ended up having a good time, and was glad to rejoin his friends at the end for some videos.
Today, we've been busy working around the house. She has been cooperative and helpful. She continues to work on her dreams, and she continues to be unrealistic. I continue to remind her she has to go a year without getting into extra food before she can move. Since she got into food today, she reset the calendar.
She showed me the notebook in which she's been writing her plans. She has decided she wants to live in a house, not an apartment. She wants 4 bedrooms, a big kitchen with an island and double ovens, and much more. I told her I didn't think she could afford it. She wants to adopt a baby. She wants to baby to be a 10 month old girl from overseas. She was willing to consider an older child if absolutely necessary.
Daughter has a very difficult time with the concept of money and what is and isn't realistic. She is doing better now that she's back on the lithium. She's decided she'll stay in her current house until she moves into her own place. She doesn't want to move into another group home. As far as I am concerned, that is excellent news and a great relief.
Things continue to be busy at the church. I've had lots of people wanting time with me. I told Administrative Assistant that I'm just too popular. Fortunately, I love every minute of it. The retreat I went on left me a little bit behind, but it was worth every minute I spent on it. I gained some important insights into myself and why I've been avoiding some things. I will share some of those insights at another time.
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How do you handle her wanting to adopt a baby? Do you explain why that's out of the question,
I remind her she has to be able to take care of herself before she even thinks about adoption. I don't want to take her goals away from her, and I don't want to encourage unrealistic dreams. It's balancing act. I have never told her she can or can't adopt a child. I try to use these dreams to motivate her to do better. We talk quite a bit about how you have to walk before you can run, and you need to master the alphabet before you can read. I point out that she's trying to run a marathon before she can walk.
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