Case Manager called me today. She thinks they've cured Daughter. I hope she's right. They're looking for meaningful consequences, and wondered about taking away choir. Choir is the only independent activity Daughter has with the general public, and is a wonderful support for her. I said I had concerns about doing that, and suggested that it might be better to take away her TV for a while. I don't know what they'll decide. I said I'd support whatever decision they made.
I also shared some of my concerns regarding communication. I have intentionally stayed out, telling Daughter she has a voice and needs to use it. I'm going to encourage Daughter to start telling CM her concerns. CM says one of the staff members left because she's pregnant. I said Daughter needs to be told what's going on. She says they can't tell her due to confidentiality. I suggested they could tell her that this staff member has resigned and moved on to other things. After our conversation, I realized that for them this is simply a staff member. For Daughter, it's a family member. You shouldn't find out a family member isn't coming back by seeing their bedroom emptied of all of their possessions.
We had our children's ministry at the church tonight. I had a blast leading singing and building Noah's ark with the kids while I told the story. The kids had a great time. Daughter helped with the crafts, and didn't complain. After I did the opening. I sat in my study and read.
I saw the orthopedic doctor today. He's delighted with my arm. He said he didn't need any more x-rays. I'm supposed to go back in May to talk about removing the hardware. We'll have another discussion about it then-- I might consider it if I didn't have to have general anesthesia....
2 comments:
Losing TV privileges for awhile seems like a better consequence in this instance. Can your DD tell you why she speaks forbidden food? Is it a game to her to be able to outsmart the people in charge of locking it up, or does her body crave sugar? I've known a few diabetics who weren't mentally challenged who couldn't resist sneaking sugary snacks or drinking alcohol.
I think there are a variety of reasons for it.
1. Like my many children adopted out of the foster care system, she was hungry for the first 3 years of her life. She still worries about having enough.
2. She's testing them, to see if they will keep her safe from herself.
3. It's a control issue-- you can't control me.
4. It's a bit of a game to her.
5. Sometimes she'll say she's hungry, but I am doubtful.
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