tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598593770349608789.post4806892996316959406..comments2023-09-06T05:47:08.970-04:00Comments on Ministry and Parenting: Turn It AroundReverend Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726370034631635093noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598593770349608789.post-61288626626480641422010-09-10T15:48:57.516-04:002010-09-10T15:48:57.516-04:00Miz Kizzle, If I'd known what I was getting in...Miz Kizzle, If I'd known what I was getting into, I would have run screaming in the other direction. I'm glad I didn't know, because I'm grateful to have Daughter in my life-- even when she's being a huge pain.<br /><br />Maeve, She'd leave the sheets on the bed and sleep on the floor and soak the carpet.... As she told me the other night, she'll win. I have a list to help her turn it around when she gets home. I'm not going to engage her about it. She can deal with the paper. I'm going to cover my buttons as carefully as I can.... Your advice comes from hard earned wisdom, so I'll always appreciate it and occasionally follow it!Reverend Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01726370034631635093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598593770349608789.post-79707476720556354732010-09-10T13:02:19.651-04:002010-09-10T13:02:19.651-04:00I wonder.....would it help to make the "chore...I wonder.....would it help to make the "chore issues" her issues and not yours. If the sheets don't get washed she'll smell bad; if the clothing doesn't get washed or put away she won't have anything to wear. "so sad, so bad". You could positively reinforce the good stuff and ignore the bad, counting on natural consequences. Oh, and alarm the off-limits places so you don't need line-of-sight supervision. <br /><br />Sorry -- my "advice button" is out of control. The social worker in me just needs to escape. <br /><br />As for the intrusive phone calls --does she really need to phone when she's at "work"? <br /><br />I find that I use completion of the chores as a way to have K earn privileges. It's blackmail for sure but it works for me. She wanted to go to a friend's house after school the other day and she did the litterboxes that she'd refused to do earlier to earn the privilege. <br /><br />You are so sensitive to her needs to be cuddled and you're such a great mom. Don't you just hate this anxiety/power/control stuff?maevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05096648321833641269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598593770349608789.post-15130822008518463482010-09-10T12:38:42.701-04:002010-09-10T12:38:42.701-04:00Ack! Did you imagine when you adopted her that you...Ack! Did you imagine when you adopted her that you'd have to watch her every move when she was 23 years old?Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.com